Friday, August 15, 2008
Shabbos Bulletin 8/16/2008
GOOD SHABBOS!
Parshas Vaeschanan:
Aug 16, 2008 / 15 Av 5768
Shabbos Schedule
Fri, Aug 15
06:30 pm Summer Mincha
07:21 pm Candle Lighting
08:20 pm Krias Shema (earliest time)
Sat, Aug 16
08:45 am Shacharis Gabbaim R. Quinn & S. Gross
09:45 am Krias HaTorah Avi Gruen
09:36 am Krias Shema (latest time)
10:30 am Dvar Torah R Gold
10:15 am Spirituality 101 R Heller
11:00 am Kiddush
11:30 am Shiur R Wolbe
11:30 am Middos for Marriage Rbzn Denbo
06:00 pm Kiruv Kollel M. Abramson
05:45 pm In-Reach Parsha Class R Gold
CANCELLED Pirkei Avos H. Witkin
06:15 pm Gemara Brochos R Denbo
07:00 pm Mincha
07:30 pm Seudah Shlishis R Gold
08:20 pm Maariv
Sun Aug 17 – Fri Aug 22
05:13 am Earliest Tallis – Vaeschanan
06:00 am Shacharis – Gabbai Eliezer (Rick) Kahn
07:30 am Shacharis – Gabbai Yona (Jonah) Light
7:00/8:00 am Sun. Shacharis
09:36 am Latest Shema
10:43 am Latest Shacharis
01:31 pm Earliest Mincha
06:16 pm Plag HaMincha
05:40 pm Summer Mincha
07:20 pm Weekday Mincha/Maariv
09:00 pm Maariv b’zmano
07:13 pm Candle Lighting next week - Parshas Ekev
in-Reach Class Schedule
(At Aish unless specified)
Cancelled 9:00 am Hilchos Tefilos
Cancelled 8:00 pm Book of Joshua (10 wks) R Weinberg
Mon 8:00 pm Tefillah for Women Rbzn Gold
Mon-Fri 6:50 am Gemara R Cohen
Mon-Fri 7:00am Kiruv Kollel B’Chevrusa M. Abramson
Mon-Fri 8:30 am Mishne Brura: R Cohen
Laws of Prayer
Tues 8:15 pm Tehillim Group Weinsteins
Wed 8:00 am Valley AM Learning R Heller
Wed 11:00 am Mommy, Me & Torah Rbzn Shenker
Wed 7:30 pm Gemara Skills R Shenker
Thurs 7:30am Women’s Parsha L. Pritikin
Thurs Noon Pirkei Avos H. Witkin
Rabbi Yitzchak Berkovits on Child-Raising: Calmness
We have thus far discussed the importance of children seeing a happy home and their need to be made to feel secure. Another important element in a home – an atmosphere from which happiness and security seem to flow more effortlessly – is that of regiyah, calmness. Perhaps the biggest obstacle to marital harmony and raising children is the presence of pressure, when people are stressed. Why is this so?
Generally, the cause of one’s stress tends to become a larger-than-life issue, relegating everything else secondary. In this state, the person loses his ability to evaluate, with any degree of reason, whether the issue is truly important in the first place. Sadly, in almost all instances, although the issue may not be totally trivial, it is rarely of the colossal importance that would justify the amount of pressure it is generating. Fueled by the attitude of “this has to be”, and very often, “right now”, tension quickly brings otherwise mundane matters to the boiling point. It is truly eye-opening to consider the amount of pressure we bring to bear on those around us (and ourselves) over matters that really don’t warrant it.
In all cases, stress is force of little redeeming value. It spreads from the person to those around him, leaving tension, nerves, and anxiety in its wake. Calmness, by contrast, can bring so much more success in all areas of life. Particularly within families it creates a pleasant, healthy atmosphere where children can thrive.
Changing middos (character traits) - to overcome old patterns and ingrained habits - is difficult, to say the least. But, even if not for our own sake, don’t we owe it to our children to be the strong and mature parents they so desperately need?
Let’s look at a few examples: A common stress situation involves getting the kids out to school on time in the morning. It’s late, and the parents are stressed, worried that the kids will be late. The parents themselves may be late. In the tense atmosphere that prevails, parents tend to be less patient with their kids, less caring, and less trusting... Obviously the child who complains of a stomach-ache must be feigning it just to stall for time. Since the parents are not interested in listening, the children will carry on even more, and it will get later and later. The parent may end up dragging a screaming and kicking child through the streets. At the end, everyone is late.
Alternatively, at night, parents may need to go out. If they are calm and patient, they have a fighting chance of getting out on time. But if they’re pressurized, it is basically guaranteed that the kids will perform, carry on, and do everything in the world besides go to sleep.
A common stress inducer in modern living (not specifically pertaining to children) is being stuck in traffic. The driver can become extremely frustrated and tense, and may become nasty to those around him. Interestingly, he may not even be in a particular hurry to reach his destination. Simply feeling ‘stuck’ seems to drive people crazy. Note how people literally risk their lives with dangerous driving, simply because they get nervous. To be continued…
Shabbat Shalom, R’
HALACHA OF THE WEEK
Rav Moshe Feinstein zt ”l held that since today many times a person is killed for his money, if a person is held up, he should say birkas hagomel because he has experienced a miracle that he was not killed.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Kiddush sponsor
Aish is sponsoring Kiddush in honor of the SEED Couples, R’ Zev and Mrs. Batsheva Wolbe and R’ Yoel and Mrs. Rachel Gold. Thank you for your dedication to our community this week!
seudah shlishis sponsors
No sponsors this week. Contact Tamar for sponsorship opportunities.
Thank you
Thank you to Jonathan Karabenick for driving the Tomchei Shabbos route this week.
MAZAL TOV
Mazal tov to
Mazal tov to Daniel and Azriela Jankovic on the birth of a baby girl.
R’ SIMCHA VIDEO CONFERENCE
This week’s video conference with R’ Simcha Weinberg will resume this Sun.
Become an aleinu
Aleinu is looking for male and female volunteers to mentor youth ages 6 – 18. Mentors are provided with comprehensive training, ongoing support and supervision to help both the mentor and youth benefit most from their experience. Mentor training: Mon, Sep 15. For more information, contact Dr. Bassya Pinson at (310) 247-0534 ext 222 or email bpinson@jfsla.org.
Hosting for Shabbos
Families who would like guests at their Shabbos tables are encouraged to contact the Tamar with preferred dates and meals, ext. 305. In addition, if you can accommodate sleep-over guests it is greatly appreciated!
UPCOMING EVENTS!
TODAY! WOMEN’S SEUDAH SHLISHIS
This Shabbos afternoon we will be having a Women’s Seudah Shlishis with Mrs. Batsheva Wolbe at the Notowitz home from 5:00-6:30pm. Their address is
Also, don’t miss our upcoming AISH Family Picnic THIS Sun, Aug 17, from 10 am – 12:30 pm at
MON, AUG 18: TEFILLAH CLASS
Come hear Mrs. Rachel Gold, one of our outstanding SEED Rebbetzins, speak about “Tefillah for Women” this Mon, Aug 18, from 8-9pm at Aish.
COMMUNITY CORNER
Childcare Team: Every Shabbos, from 8:40-9:00 am, all children ages 4-12 will be playing board games in the outside courtyard supervised by Elana Aufrichtig, as the teenage madrichim don't arrive until 9.
Parents, please communicate to your children that if they come to Aish before 11 am, they need to either be davening in shul or participating in their age appropriate group. Please do not allow your child to hang out in the shul halls or the outside courtyard during davening. We thank you for your cooperation. If you have any questions or concerns about this, please speak to R Cohen.
Social Team:
Aish Family Picnic, THIS Sun, Aug 17. See info above.
The Social Team has decided to cancel the Aish family hike previously scheduled for Sun, Aug 24. More events to come – watch this space!
Education Team:
The Education Team has extended the Kiruv Kollel to weekdays at 7:00 am and are learning Maseches Chulin. On Shabbos (one hour before mincha) and every Sun at 8:00 am, they are learning Jewish civil law in Parshas Mishpatim. Any interested men are invited to join.
With Elul on the horizon, the Education Team is also working on expanding the Kollel, organizing more learning opportunities, and even developing an essential curriculum for learning.
AIsh Class information:
AUG 16: MIDDOS FOR MARRIAGE
Middos for Marriage is aimed at fixing the biggest problem in your marriage – YOU! This series is for those of you married under five years (please respect this).
Today at 11:30 am in Seminar Rm – Rbtzn Nechama Denbo – Simcha – Women Only.
Aug 16: YIRAS SHAMAYIM CLASS for women
This Shabbos afternoon at 5:00 pm, Rbzn Braverman will continue her series of summer shiurim on understanding and deepening your Yiras Shamayim. The shiur is at her home.
AUG 19:
Tehillim group every Tues at 8:15 pm at Ze’ev and Shoshana Weinstein’s home.
aug 20: Mommy, Me & Torah
For women & young children every Wed at 11 am for one hour at Aish. There is circle time with davening, songs, play, and snack time, followed by a 30 min parsha class with Rbtzn Shenker.
AUG 20: SKILLS-BASED GEMORA CLASS (4TH CHAPTER OF BRACHOS)
Every Wed at 7:30pm for men. Includes chevrusah preparation and a shiur. Hebrew reading required. Walk-ins welcome. Contact R’
AUG 20: ‘GEVURAH’ IS
Gevurah: “Raising the bar for 30-somethings and beyond” is a young professionals Torah class for 30+ year-old men and women. Every Wed from 8:15-9:30 at Aish. For details, call (310) 766-9105 or email
AUG 21: THE
If you are a woman who wants to be more educated, whether you’re a beginner or have been learning for years, come to this new class designed especially for women. Every Thurs at 7:30 am (that’s right, am), Jul 31 through Sep 18 at Aish. Taught by
Aug 25: YOUNG COUPLES
A class for young married women (under 5 years) at 8:00 pm at a private residence. Please RSVP with Sharon Shenker.
Tamar Sullivan
Community & Hospitality Coordinator
Aish
Phone: 310.278.8672 ext 305
